How to make people less difficult

People are different, and it’s easy to interpret ‘different’ as ‘difficult’. When we expect someone to be difficult, we unconsciously filter for evidence to support our view… Not surprisingly, that’s what we find. The Reticular Activating System—or RAS—is a set of interconnected nuclei in the brain that filters in what’s relevant to us and blocks...

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5 Ways Fearless Leaders Create Powerful Silence

Silence is an underrated leadership tool. Of course, I am not talking about the kind of ‘hostile silence’ that intimidates people into saying something! This is a silence that gives people time to think and opens up the conversational space for something richer than top of mind thoughts. Silence can be more challenging for extrovert...

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When: Owls, Larks and Third Birds

Dan Pink’s latest book ‘When: The scientific secrets of perfect timing’ had me enthralled from start to finish. He makes a strong case for thinking carefully about ‘when’ we do things – think, make decisions, exercise, time breaks… We are all governed by ‘circadian rhythms’ – our internal body clock that keeps us functioning.  Pink...

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