I once heard a ‘domestic goddess’ interviewed on maximising house-cleaning effort. Her top 5 advice included understanding the functions of all your vacuum cleaner accessories and using them all. Sounded like good advice – until then I only ever used the main suction tool.
‘Jeremy’ is a project manager, responsible for the successful delivery of multimillion – dollar commercial construction projects. He has excellent problem solving skills, is logical, organised, and able to multitask. His resilience enables him to push through barriers. Jeremy described this aspect of himself as his ‘reality part’. He saw it as a red cube. He referred to as Mr Strong.
Outside work, Jeremy’s friends describe him as sensitive, compassionate and creative, and yet Jeremy had denied this part of himself in the workplace. He described this as his ‘ideas, hopes and creative aspirations’ part and saw it as a malleable yellow sphere.
Jeremy understood that his red part was critical to his success at work, and yet he didn’t want to own it. He resented that he kept his yellow part under cover, admitting that his work colleagues ‘didn’t really know him’. This inner tension contributed to Jeremy’s dissatisfaction with his work and his inability to create an alternative professional future.
When have you found yourself in a situation of inner conflict? ‘One part of me says X and the other part says Y…’
During coaching I guided Jeremy through a ‘parts integration’, through which he was able to understand and articulate what both parts of him wanted, and how the two parts could work together effectively to achieve that. He realised that his creative – yellow part made a significant contribution to his success of as a project manager. Perhaps even more importantly, he realised that his reality – red part could support his artistic side, if only he would let it.
For Jeremy, who is quite visual, the symbolic result was an orange multi – faceted ball. The outcome was massively increased energy and a new sense of confidence and alignment, as Jeremy harnessed all parts of him to optimize his impact.
What opportunities would open for you optimize your leadership impact by resolving inner conflict and using all your ‘parts’?
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