Oh my goodness – this is the penultimate (I love that word!) video is in the series ‘7 Questions to Ask When You Want to Tell!’. I hope you are finding it useful.

The intent of this question is to remind you that you are not indispensable! When you’re not here, people survive. And this question might give you an insight into how.

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When will you try out this one?

Go Fearlessly – Corrinne

PS If you are interested in the content, but don’t like watching video, here’s the transcript of what I say:

Have you ever wondered what happens when you’re not here, when you’re not here? To answer those questions – “Oh, my goodness. This has happened. What should I do?” – You know when there’s an empty chair. Seriously! When you’re in holidays, people survive. And this question might give you an insight into how.

All right, so how are you going? How are you going on your quest to stop helping too hard?

Sometimes when people come to us and they’ve got this question and they want a solution and they want it right now. And they think that we’ve got the answer. Sometimes what they really want is validation, they don’t necessarily need the answer from you. They need validation that they’re on the right pathway.

So do your bit – validate – rather than jump in with a solution. Try this question. “What would you do if I wasn’t here?”

Now, caution. “What would you do if I wasn’t here?” Your tone and your body language will change their experience of that question. Our tone and our body language can you know, it can be fun, it can sound fun. It can sound judgmental… It can sound thoughtful or curious or creative.

Your tone and your body language signal to the other person, what’s the intent behind the question. With the right tone and body language and the intent that comes with it, we build rapport, you know, without that, we destroy rapport. Or maybe we don’t destroy it, but we really break it at that moment. And our questions are much more powerful when we have good rapport.

“So what would you do if I wasn’t here?” Ask that question and see what answers you get. And the best bit is they’ll get more empowered. They’ll start creating creative and solving this stuff for themselves.

And you can take more holidays!